Wedding?

Now I am going to be controversial. But that is the point of this blog so here goes.

Marriage. What does that mean to you?
White dresses, aisles, bridesmaids, wedding cake, first dance, groom's speech, best man's speech, father of the bride, tossing the bouquet etc. etc. ?

What it doesn't mean to me is a same sex ceremony. That is a same sex union, a civil partnership, but it is not a marriage.

I thought I'd check the online dictionary to back up my opinion, but the dictionary is obviously more forward thinking than me, defining marriage as:

"The legal union of a man and woman as husband and wife, and in some jurisdictions, between two persons of the same sex, usually entailing legal obligations of each person to the other"

From speaking with friends and colleagues I understand I am being old-fashioned, but really this is a reflection of my understanding of the english language. Nonetheless, the English language is constantly evolving and to me marriage means heterosexual union. Simple as. There is an unfortunate gap in the English language for an appropriate terminology for a same-sex union (civil union sounds so boring which is probably why "marriage" has been appropriated) but in my opinion, that does not constitute a reason to call it a marriage. Perhaps I should invent a new word - how about Unification, Juncture, or my personal favourite, Melding.

On a more deeply philosophical note, I would comment that using words like "partner" and "marriage" to define both hetero or gay relationships I find irritatingly neo-liberal. What is wrong with shouting out your sexuality? I am proud to say I have a boyfriend. And what would be wrong with having a boyfriend if I were a guy? Why label your boyfriend as your partner? Are we all so afraid to offend that we have to use gender-unspecific terms? Partner is such a do-gooding term that it offends me, so despite the fact that I'm 35 and living with him, I have a boyfriend, not a partner.

Overemployment at supermarkets

Today I was in New World (supermarket for those of you not in Godzone). As I was on my bike, I didn't want a plastic bag, I wanted to put the food in my rucksack. In fact, I almost never want a plastic bag, unless I make an impromptu visit and forget to take my own bags. But many supermarkets in NZ (New World being a prime culprit) seem to have a policy of overemployment. They have plastic bag packers on the checkout. Whenever I get to the checkout I have to tell the nice young packers that I'll pack my own bags, thank you. Otherwise I am forcibly given MORE plastic bags to add to the mountain already in the spare room. This inevitably results in the checkout packer standing around like a lemon while I pack my own bag.

The checkout packers mainly seem to be there to foist yet more plastic bags on the shopper. With checkout packers in place the default position is to give the shopper plastic bags, whereas the default position should be for shoppers to provide their own bag. New World briefly experimented with charging for plastic bags, a scheme which was presumably dropped due to public pressure. But big corporations have a duty to be environmentally responsible and the checkout packers are definitely not helping.

Another issue, though is how much supermarkets spend to keep the checkout packers - essentially a "nice to have" position - employed. It is noticeable in NZ (to someone who has lived in other countries) that commodities are expensive, even those commodities, like meat and milk products, which are produced here. It makes you wonder how much is being paid in shop overheads and how much the consumer is paying for this superfluous - and costly to the planet - service.

The flip side, of course, is that the supermarkets are providing additional employment. But on balance, I think the market could absorb those roles. It would be interesting to see if the checkout packers were made redundant (a) how many plastic bags would be saved and (b) whether commodity prices would come down at all or if New World would quietly keep them up and increase their profit margins yet more.

Do you like having the checkout packers? Or, like me, do you find them superfluous and costly both to consumer and the environment?

Sirocco

A sirocco is a type of hot desert wind. It's also the world's most famous kakapo. This week Sirocco the kakapo was visiting Wellington and we went to see him at Zealandia.

http://www.visitzealandia.com/site/zealandia_home/

I have been quietly fascinated by kakapo for a couple of years. They are what's known as a zombie species - i.e. they should be extinct, but due to human intervention, they are clinging on to existence. Ironically it was humans who caused them to verge on extinction in the first place through their introduction of predators which love to eat flightless birds.

Kakapo are the heaviest parrots in the world, up to 4kg (obviously they can't fly) and they are solitary birds. When predators arrived they quickly killed off the females in the population when they were sitting on nests, so by the 70s the only known individuals were males - the species was functionally extinct. Luckily a population with females in was discovered on Stewart Island, and the whole population was translocated to predator-free islands where they are now breeding, slowly. From a low point of 51 individuals the population is now up to 129, but they are still in a precarious position and dependent on humans for the foreseeable future.

It was great to see Sirocco (parrots are very endearing birds) and Zealandia did a really good job with the whole experience, but it does make you wonder whether it's all worth it. Why do we strive to save species like Kakapo? Certainly we enjoyed ourselves (for $40), but is the money invested in saving this one, defenceless species really worth it? What does biodiversity really add to the world? Darwin knew that only the fittest survive, and a counter point to NZ's ecological mania is to just accept that kakapo did not adapt, and they cannot survive.

Obese

The before shot

Today I went to the family planning clinic (there, that's the first thing I wasn't supposed to mention). Anyway, in between injections we took blood pressure readings, which lead to the discussion about the fact that I'm overweight. The nurse is one of those wonderful old-school nurses who have been doing their job forever and know everything. She wasn't about to tell me what to do, but looked very worried when the reading came up 140/80, and told me I should go to my GP, which I'm not about to do as they will prescribe pills and that'll be it - me, on pills forever.

Anyway, as my only risk factor is being overweight, I told my lovely nurse to bully me into losing weight. She duly weighed me, calculated my BMI and told me I now fitted into the OBESE category. That, I must admit is a bit of shock. I've always been a bit fat, but also very active. How many obese people cycle to work every day and play netball and tennis? Being generally big helps me out quite a bit, as the weight doesn't just go straight to my tummy, and I have a lot of muscle mass, so I don't immediately strike people (including myself) as fat.


But then again, I do eat a lot. Not just bad stuff you understand, a lot generally. And I think losing weight for me will be about generally eating smaller amounts of everything (and cutting back on the Friday evening pub chips and the let's face it almost every day mid afternoon chocolate bar).

Anyway, I currently weigh about 88kg and my goal is by my next appointment to weigh 80kg. That's in 12 weeks time, so just under 1 kilo to be lost per week. I have even created myself a little graph on old-fashioned graph paper with a target weight to reach. The nurse put an alert on the computer for the next person having an appointment with me to check whether I'd reached my target weight, so it will be pretty embarrassing if I don't.

But will I do it? I'm feeling pretty hungry after eating sensibly today!